Stories For The Soul ·
A TRUE EYE-OPENER! --Perfect husband and wife...
A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat down and talked about life.
After a while I interrupted the conversation and said to him, ′′I'm going to wash the dishes, I'll be right back.”
He looked at me like I told him he was going to build a spaceship. So he said to me with admiration and a little stumped, ′′Glad you help your wife, I rarely help mine because when I do she never thank me. Last week I washed the floor and she didn't even tell me to thank you.”
I sat back down with him again and explained to him that I don't ′′help′′ my wife. Actually, my wife doesn't need help, she needs a partner, a teammate. I'm her home partner… and due to that, all functions are divided, which is not “help” with household chores.
I don't “help” my wife clean the house because I also live in it and I need to clean it too.
I don't “help” my wife cook, because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I don't “help” her washing dishes after eating, because I use these dishes too.
I don't “help” my wife with kids, because they are mine too and I have to be a father.
I don't “help” my wife wash, extend, fold, and put away laundry because it's mine and my kids too.
I don't give a “helping hand” at home, I'm part of it.
Then with respect, I asked my friend when was the last time he said to his wife ** thank you?? ** when she finished cleaning the house, doing laundry,
changing the bedsheets, bathing the kids, cooking, organizing, etc..
I mean a real thank you, like, “Wow, baby!! You're amazing!!"
Does this all seem absurd? Does it sound weird to you? When, once in your life, you cleaned the floor, you expected at least an excellence award with great glory... why? Haven't you ever thought about that?
Maybe, because for you, macho culture taught you that everything is a woman's task.
Maybe you've been taught that all this should be done without you having to move a finger.
So praise her as you would like to be praised, likewise, with the same intensity.
Hold her hand and behave like a true companion, and assume your part, don't behave
like a guest who simply comes to eat, sleep, shower, and satisfy sexual needs...
feel at home, in your home.
Change in our society begins in our homes, teaching our
children the true sense of fellowship!
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Cecilia Strecker
My 2 sons cook clean do laundry grocery shop and etc with no complaints they also are great husbands fathers and mothers both have 24/7 jobs and yes their wives work full time very proud of them
Karen Lancaster
Cecilia Strecker well done you raised your sons well, it all comes down to parenting π
Roxie Bennett
I can honestly say that my sweet husband is worth his weight in gold! I know how blessed I truly am. Not only is he handy with fixing things, working on the vehicles, yard work etc...you know, all the stereotypically male tasks; but he also will sweep, mop the floors, do laundry, wash dishes and cook. He can even see! Don’t know what I did to deserve him. Thank you Lord!
Kathy Wolffe
My granddaughter and her husband work side by side. They both amaze me!π
Gayle Dranter
My husband helps me with everything,I am blessed as well
Kay Copenhaver
Wonderful!!! A TRUE marriage is exactly as you describe. A sharing of everything! On both people's parts!!! And it's so appreciated by all!!!
Marlene Closinski
In today’s world , everyone has to pitch in because the Mom who used to stay home and keep house is now out working to help support the family . It is a different time made possible by the latest appliances in large part .
Susan Stewart
If more partners thought like this, maybe more marriages and relationships would stay together. The days when the male was the total bread winner and that was his role is over - it's suppose to be a partnership and like all partnerships putting in 50% is the norm otherwise don't cry about it when one will cut out and go it alone
Barb Lunn
I love this man!β€οΈ
H Roy Giles
I remember going to the store to get groceries with my older brothers. David was 16, Tom was 14 and I was 7.
We cooked, washed clothes by hand then hung them out to dry. Our parents
worked 12 hour days 6 1/2 days per week.
I’m now 67 retired and I’ve been married for 41 years. I cook, clean house, do laundry right along side my wife… however she does a better job at all of them. I do however cut the grass ( on my zero turn radius lawn mower)
Diane White
H Roy Giles Well done Sir.
Denna Apt
As their mother my boys could cook and clean because I thought they should know how They all three do their share of everything it’s because they want to and they appreciate their families
Nita Linn
What a lovely appreciation of his wife and partner! Thank you for sharing!
Elaine Vernet
What A True Inspiration, we certainly need more of men who are thinking about not just "themselves "π
Eddie Ogden
Yes true everything is done together almost all the time because true love takes two
Cheryl Martin Jefferson
My husband insists on cleaning up the kitchen after we eat. He insists on doing the laundry & taking out the trash. He keeps the house picked up & pays our cleaning lady & the lawn service. Although I’m retired now he reminds me of all the years I worked & didn’t have a true partner to share life’s responsibilities. He wants to spoil me & I think I’ll let him do just that. He’s one in a bazillion.
Elaine McCullough
I will say we have been married for 62 yrs, and my husband shared all the household chores except laundry. He did most of the outdoor chores. We shared. I didn’t have to ask he just chipped in.
Tom Sandy Plante
Elaine McCullough , never let them do laundry!!!
Brian Russell
My wife is disabled so the laundry is my responsibility. She does help with folding.
Sherman Lewis
I don’t know about the rest of you guys, but my wife does the cooking and I do the dishes. She cleans the house and I mow the lawn front and back. I pay when we go shopping and carry the bags into the house and she puts the stuff away how she wants. It’s a team effort and always has been. Isn’t that the way it should be? It’ll be 52 years this year. I’m so happy and blessed that she keeps me around. I love this woman and I hope she keeps around forever! Am I lucky or what?
Patti Fordyce
Sherman Lewis you are both lucky!
Chris Kynoch
I taught my 4 sons to do all the household tasks, so that they could do them well in their own homes .
I am blessed with a husband who does the same for me . ππ
Thank God !
Tom Sandy Plante
This is an inspiring post! I have a great husband that acts like you. I have to think alot of women don't know what you're talking about. That is sad.
Kay Benson
This is so true and beautiful βΊοΈ
BillyJoe Waters
I taught my boys how to treat their relationship
Very proud of them
I was a single mom the part of them growing up
Judy Dempsay
Amazingly written and all boys should be taught this early in life
Bill Clugsten
Question: Does the wife work or is she a stay at home housewife??? Her husband goes to work everyday to earn a living for the family, if she is a stay at home housewife then it is her job and responsibility to care for the children and clean the house…
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Mark D Moretti
Bill Clugsten not entirely most of the dailies maybe but the kids and nightly chores should be equal all be it a little time for the working spouse to wind down...
Bill Clugsten
Mark D Moretti, not if she is a stay at home housewife/mother! The children and house are her job, not his! If she wants shared household chores then go get a job paying as much as her husband!
Candace Cafcules
Bill Clugsten how about switching jobs for a day. I was a working mom of 4, with à husband tjat traveled Sun pm to Fri pm. He has an attitude like you. His belief is he’s the man! So I gave him a list of “manly” things that needed to be done when he was home.
A true man would not think that way. Husbands and wives are to be partners. They are to support one another with love and respect. If you want to divide things like you say you do, then you will not have a fulfilling and loving marriage. I’ve been married now for 45 years. My husband has come to understand this special bond and respect it.
Also, have you heard the saying “Happy wife; happy life”!
Teresa Evans Leach
There is more besides putting food on the table. You have a 24/7 job just as the Mom does at home. Her day don’t end just because the husband came home from work. The kids still need to learn fellowship and responsibility. A mans work is from Dawn …
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Heidi Clark
Thank you to the awesome women and men from whom my husband learned to be the perfect partner ππ»β€οΈ
Suzanne Mack-Loeber
Amen! My husband loads and unloads the dish washer, makes the bed and vacuums. He also does windows!
Candace Cafcules
Suzanne Mack-Loeber I’m not allowed to do the windows. No matter what I try I streak them.
Ruth Bishop
Beautiful! Married to my husband for 50 years before he died, we were partners! Whoever got to whatever first, did the work. An amazing man and partner. Miss him so.
Joyce Thomas
All so true and Thank You for telling it like it is all part of this beautiful families life !!!
Kat Wyatt Magedman
and my husband never "babysat" our 4 sons when they were little. When one of us was not home the other was the parent in charge. The only thing he never did that I did was breastfeed. But he did give them bottles if I was not home.
Maria Hill
Respect each other in love
Ginger Jones
When I was about 10, my neighbor lady used to pay me .20 cents to clean her kitchen before her husband returned home from and Run from Railroad. Her kitchen looked just like that, she had three boys! I was happy to do it for .20 centsπ
Betty Sturgeon
I always worked a full time job. I did all the shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning, getting kids ready for bed, etc. Never had any help & none was offered.
Martha Adelaide Combs
Betty Sturgeon Me too.
Charmaine Abbott
Betty Sturgeon now the truth as I saw it… the only thing that sticks in my mind that my husband ever did…. I was losing a baby and he went and bought s. Towels for me. I thought that was heroic. Men don’t or didn’t shop. Or do women s work .
Annette Essman
Truer words couldn’t be written or spoken.